5 Tips for Introducing Your New Baby To Older Siblings

Mom and dad introduce their newborn baby to the older siblings

During your pregnancy, you may have imagined the moment when your older children meet their newborn sibling for the first time. You might be excited about this meeting or nervous, or a bit of both. That’s totally understandable! A newborn marks a significant shift in your family dynamic, which can be overwhelming.  No matter how much you prepare, you can’t predict how your children will react to their new sibling. But you can do your best to make the transition smooth. 

Lifestyle image of Mom with her new baby resting on her shoulder

Mom and dad introduce their newborn baby to the older siblings


Mom sitting on a couch and introducing the new baby to it's older sibling Dad sitting on a couch holding his newborn baby while older siblings cuddle behind him playfully

Encourage friendship before baby arrives

As a mom, you and your new baby are developing a relationship before your little one even appears earth-side. Your other children can foster a relationship before the baby is born as well!

  • Let them touch your baby bump or talk and sing to the baby.
  • Ask your children what they think the baby is doing in your tummy.
  • Read them stories about siblings.
  • Let them help decorate the nursery.
  • Share the ultrasound images and let them feel the baby kicking in your belly. 

The more you help them feel involved in the pregnancy journey, the more interested they will be when your new addition arrives!

Big sister stands by the new baby's crib holding a stuffed animal  Big Brother sitting on a bed in his room as he waits for his new little brother

Big brother standing on the bed

Make the first meeting fun

Take time to make sure your older child’s first meeting with the new baby is a special and memorable moment. It’s important that your child has positive associations with the baby. 

  • Choosing a neutral place like the living room, where the older children feel comfortable.
  • Let the older siblings hold the baby (with assistance, if necessary), making sure to capture the moment with photos or a little video.
  • Keeping the first meeting short and sweet to avoid overwhelming either child.

Introducing the new baby to his older sister

A happy big brother hugging his new brother as he lays in his mothers arms

Give a gift to your older children

Who doesn’t like gifts? Presenting the older siblings with a ‘big brother’ or ‘big sister’ gift from the baby can make them feel valued and respected. It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive; it’s the thought that counts. Something as simple as a book or a t-shirt that celebrates their new status can make a significant difference.

Big sister sitting on a gray chair and holding a stuffed giraffe 

Pay extra attention to big brother or sister

It’s natural for your children to feel a little upset that the new baby gets all the attention, so make sure you’re intentional about putting the focus on your older children also. If you’re holding baby when big brother or sister arrives, put the newborn back down and take time to talk to your child and ask them about their day. Putting your focus on your older child helps them see that they’re just as loved and important, even if they’re not the baby anymore.

Make sure to

  • Spend some one-on-one time with them, doing activities they enjoy.
  • Reassure them of your love and attention.
  • Involve them in caring for the baby, if they show interest, to mitigate feelings of jealousy

Three siblings laying on a rug including a little girl in a pink shirt and pig tails, a big brother in a strips shirt and the newborn baby

Cute little girl with blond hair and pig tails wearing a pink shirt and smiling

Smiling little boy wearing a striped shirt


Give your child tasks to do

Depending on their age, you can give your older children some jobs to do to help you care for the newborn. Whether it’s singing a lullaby to the baby or even helping with diaper changes or feedings, allow your child to feel more involved in the care of the new baby. This can go a long way in helping them feel a part of the change in your family, instead of feeling left out. Plus, let’s be honest, you’ll need all the help you can get!

Mom dressing her newborn baby son on a changing table

Newborn in his crib with mom holding his little hand

Newborn baby photographed through the slates in his crib

In Conclusion:  Introducing your new baby to their older siblings

is a crucial step in building a harmonious family life. By starting the bonding process early, making the first meeting fun, giving the older child a gift, paying them extra attention, and giving them tasks, you’re laying the foundation for a loving and cooperative relationship between them. Remember, every child is unique, and patience, along with a bit of creativity, can go a long way in making this transition a positive experience for everyone involved.

At home and introducing the new baby to his family and older siblings

Close up of baby in mom and dad's hands

Mom and dad on the couch with their new born baby boy

And there you have it! Welcoming a new member to the family is indeed a mixed bag of emotions and adjustments but trust me, seeing your children grow up together, supporting, and loving each other, is one of the most beautiful experiences you can have as a parent. So take it one step at a time, and enjoy the journey!

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